Focus isn't the Problem, Disconnecting is

When Your House is Your Office and Your Work Lives with you.


I. “Disconnecting isn’t the absence of focus, but the switching of its gaze.”

You can be a workaholic without putting in overtime, physically present without paying attention, and working without a keyboard.

It’s not about the time you spend, but the way in which you spend that time. Put aside your agenda, checklists, and thoughts about work by focusing on the interest of others.

At the end of the day, put yourself last.


I. “Letting thoughts linger without focusing on them gives our brains the opportunity to deal with problems in a different, often surprisingly productive way.” — Sönke Ahrens, How to Take Smart Notes


I. Create Checkpoints

What happens to us when we leave unfinished tasks running in our heads?

You can't just turn it off, setting it down unfinished would be equivalent to pushing the power button, all progress would be lost. It’s a struggle to turn your minds off at the end of the day. And it's a problem of not having mental checkpoints.

When a task is left unfinished, our brains attempt to retain the progress. As a result, our short-term memory becomes a slew of unfinished tasks, which prevents you from putting down your work but also sparks anxiety.

This is known as the Zeigarik Effect1, which states people remember unfinished tasks better than completed tasks. All is not lost, the Zeigarik effect also informs us that tasks do not need to be completed to convince our brains to stop thinking about them. You simply have to create a checkpoint, by writing down information that convinces you it will be taken care of.

Sadly, daily life doesn’t have an autosave feature yet.

In the meantime, go through your tasks and projects and the end of the day and create mental checkpoints. Doing so will unclog your mind.

Put down your work and focus on the interest of your loved ones.

Until next time,

Josh Duffney
Currently Writing ✍️: Reclaim
Favorite thing of the week: “Training the habit, becomes the habit” — Charlotte M. Mason, Home Education